On reasoning, logic and compromises
We are all equipped with a degree of intelligence. Some, more than others. A few, close to none. However, I’d rather refer to the in-between crowd, the normal, average folk. The ones who wake up in the morning, go to work or school, go through the motions at the place of work or learning, come home, watch a movie, hang out with friends, enjoy peoples’ company and want to make friends… And the reason I am using this segment of population as the central focus of this little “essay” is because they are a perfect term in a comparison that involves another type of person. Rather, another fenced off area on the plain of personality types that encloses a different category of various types.
I am one of these “other types”. At least that’s the conclusion I’ve come to. I share very few things with people around me. Guided by what SEEMS to be a sense of superior reasoning, at least according to my peers, I’m the guy people come to when they’re uncertain and want to make a decision that will affect them in one way or another. Sometimes it’s nice, sometimes it’s annoying. Watching a video of me playing a puzzle game would give nobody that impression. Games for me come as a break from the real world. I don’t have to treat them with the same gravity I treat a real life situation. I don’t have to use as much brainpower in a virtual world, not even in the most tense of situations. Repetitive trial and error turn out to be enjoyable when they lack immediate serious consequences.
However, that is not the topic of this writing. For someone that apparently can efficiently think his way out of dilemmas, why is it so hard to deal with compromises when it involves their own person? The big picture becomes blurred, sometimes entirely ignored, when you know that you have to make a compromise, a decision that affects you, your feelings and your entire life in essence. When you want something so bad you’re willing to kill for it, but in the end you have to give it away towards a “greater cause”, how do you come to terms with it? I want to know how normal people do it. Is it just an “oh well, such is life” kind of mentality that people approach or do you go into an anxiety-stricken trapped animal type of mindset? Do you turn to religion hoping and praying for a miracle to happen, do you force yourself to maintain an activity to take your mind off it or do you lose track of where the fine line between rationality and madness stands?
The reason this matter is somewhat baffling to me is because I see people overreacting over absolutely meaningless things on a daily basis. People get upset when their favorite game is spoken ill of or they turn into pissy little bitches if you crack a semi-inappropriate joke. However, when a major trauma or loss occurs, they seem to deal with it almost like it ain’t no thang. If you were to proportionally scale the amount of grief they exhibit when they feel insulted on the internet and apply it to a situation where let’s say someone’s girlfriend cheated on them then let’s just say the Anders Breivik massacre would equate the seriousness of a child scraping his knee on a playground. But it doesn’t. Does it come down to power of discernment or is there some switch inside other people that inflates meaningless conflicts and deflates meaningful ones just to keep a balance? Or are people actually repressing so much these days that every one of us could be a psycho killer waiting for the right time to lose his shit and bomb a bunch of motherfuckers?
The big picture… The number one reason that gets invoked when you’re giving something up that you feel completes you as a person (totally thought of Tom Cruise when I wrote this). It’s real, it’s annoying and I want it to go away. I guess you could compare it to the way I feel about Nicki Minaj or Andy Dick. There’s always a bigger picture which calls for compromises like a gluttonous beast gorging on everything in its path. Some manage to escape it but most don’t. The price ranges from a life in ruin to a really bad afternoon and everything in-between.